Saturday, 30 August 2014


Today was one of  those random Saturdays when I was up for a party but ended up chilling with a long time friend. The peace and quiet of the evening was so inviting that I decided to do some takeout and go on a date with my ever so faithful partner, my bed. After shooting videos for an assignment my pal was driving to Karen for a team building and she offered me a ride. Although I was in the mood for a party I called up a friend and found myself on a couch the whole afternoon. And on another couch was my friend. His other friend was taking a power nap after a great time out the previous night. Quite frankly I  had expected this day to go much worse, but seated here writing I can only believe that sometimes normal is better than complicated.

There are people in our lives whose significance is undefined. I say undefined because we are yet to figure out what God's plan is by placing them in our lives. Sometimes it is by geographical circumstance like in the case of my friend, and other times it is chemistry. Again like in the case of my friend. Persons whose value cannot be determined because regardless of how much time you spend apart for some reason when you get together hours fly as you catch up and reminisce on childhood memoirs like you want to fill them in on everything. Today I realized I have such a friend. The friend that will be away for some time in the future, but history will play by its rules again and a few years from now we shall have an afternoon whose minutes can't be traced.

Going in today I was unsure of what would happen. Quite frankly I was a bit worried because I was afraid of what I already know. That there is a kind of love that never fades away. The love that the sands of time cannot corrupt but the one the heart can live without in abundance. The love that leaves the heart in peace and in high spirits. However, it is a love that lingers but never settles. That love is what defines such friendships. Where the normal is better than the complicated. Where you settle for what you can get because anything more is intoxicating to the point flight. And I am glad he settled for the normal because now I know that the friend I have is one who will always be a part of the special moments. You may not know who you will meet in life but be careful to remember why you crossed paths. They might just be more special than you think.

So until next time dear friend, be safe.

Monday, 18 August 2014


She was trembling again.
She could feel it lurking right around the corner
The past that she dreaded was on her tail again.
I had heard the stories
Those of the nights she never had.
She was awake
Wide awake thinking of how everything would fall into place again.
The sleepless nights
Spent asking if she was making the right choices
If she was being true to herself.
She spoke of the thoughts that scared her to tears.
She got lost in the distance of her dreams
Yet she felt trapped by the reality that surrounded her.
She wanted to run
The destination would be unknown.
Just when she thought she had gotten her foothold
Reality had to steal the only thing she had left.
That's how she was robbed of her hope.
She believed in the new but the old was lurking
It was catching up with her.
She knew it would eventually overtake her
But she was willing to fight until the end.
She wanted to believe that she was strong enough
She needed to know she was brave enough
She desperately wanted self-affirmation.
Life never gave it to her once
The people she trusted in never listened.
She was screaming but the world heard silence
The silence that neither attracts nor distracts.
So the sleepless nights continued
She hoped they would end before she lost all.
Finally her heart found the courage to speak
When she opened her mouth it was to say goodbye.
It was time for a new reality
Time for happiness
Time to give color back to her cheeks
Time to smile genuinely
Not to be afraid of someone seeing the pain through her eyes.
The time had come for her to have a night of sleep
She would tell no more the tale of sleepless nights.


Saturday, 9 August 2014


The other day I was chatting up a friend when a mutual acquaintance strolled in. Much to my surprise, she was trying out a new pair of heels. My only problem was that those heels looked like granny heels. In a world of youth and glamour, I think some ladies, not forgetting the men, like taking the easy way out when it comes to appearance.
A phrase arose as a result of this cocoon. "Don't expect me to look like a Victoria secret model when you don't look like the Calvin Klein models". I don't dispute the fact that certain people have superfluous expectations, but the majority of us, we just want you to put in some effort. It is very taxing when a lady walks into a room and her outfit reminds you of your granny. What's even worse is when the reigning thought is "My mother dresses better than you".
Another popular complaint is that spouses tend to let go of themselves after they tie the knot. I am not excusing this idea, but when you are single and ready to mingle, you can't walk into room looking rounder than a fully pregnant woman and claim nobody likes you. As a man, when you have a beer belly and you are not yet past forty, then I think you cannot complain if your lady doesn't care for image. If the man she is with cannot make an effort, how can she? Exercise is not every girl's best friend, but she gets motivated when she sees you trying.
The dynamics of how one dresses are interpreted differently in various contexts. However, indecent is by no means a way of sprucing up your image. There are very many elegant dressing women who are decent and still turn heads when they walk into a room. The key is confidence. Not arrogance, confidence. This comes so easily when you leave the house knowing you look GOOD.
Some people ask what it means to look good. I put it simply. Know your body shape and pick colours that complement your skin tone. You cannot walk into a room wearing a screaming yellow dress and you are as black as coal. The yellow just enhances how dark you are. When you are plump, refrain from wearing clothes that are baggy. Unfortunately this makes you look bigger. I am not saying you wear tight clothes. No! Wear clothes that fit you so that you don't look like you are competing with your younger sister.

So if you know you dress like a granny, it is  time to treat yourself to tasteful dressing. Ask that friend you feel dresses elegantly. Or be daring enough to take a man when you go shopping. Trust him when he says you look good, but don't take that as a compliment when all your assets are struggling to stay inside your clothes. Looking good doesn't cost you anything. In fact, it inspires greatness.

Till next time,